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When I first stepped on campus I honestly felt like it was home. People were so nice to me. They opened doors for me. They're all smiling. When I saw the students they were all accepting of each other, asking each other questions. And they made me actually feel like I was a Curry student even though they knew I was still a high school student.


Jordan Rogers '15
Major: Criminal Justice




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Cheering Your College Student on From a Distance

As parents, we want to support our college student in every way that we can.  We want her to know that we are aware that she is working hard.  We want her to know that we are proud of her.   We want to be present to see the fruits of her efforts, and to see her shine.  The problem is that sometimes we simply can't get to campus and we need to do our supporting from afar.

What do you do if your student is participating in that important athletic event, playing or singing in that important concert, performing in that play, dancing in that show, being inducted in that honor society, or receiving that prestigious award and you can't make the trip to the college to be there?  As a parent, you're disappointed and you feel that you've let your student down.  Intellectually, you know that you have no choice, but emotionally, it is difficult. 

Although nothing is the same as being able to be there in person for your student, here are a few suggestions that may help you through this disappointing situation.

  • Be sure that you tell your student how proud you are of her and that you wish that you could be there.  You know that she knows, but it's good to hear.
  • Acknowledge that this is emotionally difficult for everyone, but know that your student will understand.  Although he'll probably be disappointed too, if you've been there to support him all along the way, he'll understand that you'd be there if you possibly could.
  • Recognize that your student may not be the only one who will not have family at the event.  Several students may be too far from home for parents to attend.
  • Consider whether there is an alternative that you might be able to attend.  If the conflict is the date rather than the distance, could you get to a dress rehearsal or playoff game?
  • Send something special to your student that will arrive on the day of the event.  If this is an especially important event, send flowers, balloon bouquet, candygram, something out of the ordinary, to mark the event.
  • Send a special, handwritten letter expressing your pride.  (Chances are that your student will cherish that letter and keep it for a very long time.)
  • Call your student just before or just after the event to wish him good luck and see how it went.
  • Find another family who may be attending the event and ask them to "adopt" your student.  They can make a special point of seeking her out, perhaps deliver a card from you, perhaps take her out to dinner to celebrate or accompany her to the event.
  • Consider whether you know any other family members or friends in the area who might be able to attend in your place.
  • Ask your student to take lots of pictures, or to ask others for their pictures, to send to you.
  • Recognize that, although your student will undoubtedly miss you being there, he has probably developed a circle of close friends and contacts who will support him.  Part of the college experience is expanding the circle of support beyond the immediate family.  No one will ever take your place, but your student is gaining the ability to turn to others in his life for support and encouragement.
  • Remind yourself that your disappointment is two-fold.  You may be worried that your student will miss your presence, and you are also disappointed for yourself.  You want to be there to share the experience.  Acknowledge your personal disappointment.  It is valid and real.

If, throughout your student's elementary and high school career, you were the parent who faithfully attended every event in which your child participated, missing an important event at college may be a new and emotionally difficult experience.  Knowing that this may be only the first of many such occasions in the future is of little comfort.  Recognizing that there are ways that you can still show your student support may help.  Remember that your student is gaining a sense of independence and understanding.  He knows you care - even from afar.

 
 
 
 

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